It’s “the place are you now?” month at Ask a Supervisor, and all December I’m operating updates from individuals who had their letters right here answered prior to now.
There might be extra posts than common this week, so preserve checking again all through the day.
Keep in mind the letter-writer asking if it was OK to trip with a pal from work (#3 on the hyperlink)? Right here’s the replace.
Thanks a lot to your recommendation on occurring trip with my work pal (in addition to all of the feedback!). I’ve obtained a fast replace for everybody.
I did resolve to go on trip with my coworker Brad, and nothing untoward occurred whereas on the journey. No strains had been crossed, we completed the journey cordial however barely much less chatty. I assumed that was as a result of we ran out of issues to speak about after just a few days by the pool, however it’s clear that wasn’t the case.
It’s been 3 months or so for the reason that journey, and issues have been a bit frosty between us. Sometimes I’d texted Brad to seize dinner or one thing after work, however I all the time obtained turned down. All conversations and messages had been clipped/impolite, together with conversations about work matters.
After being in my new division for six months now, I’ve picked up some crimson flags about Brad that I missed earlier than (or selected to disregard resulting from our friendship). He’s constantly impolite/uncooperative/unhelpful with the entire division, to the purpose of individuals being nervous to speak to him.
I’ve stopped messaging/speaking to Brad except I’ve a piece request, and even then I’m cautious of approaching him. Sometimes I’ll get a late night time textual content asking to fulfill him on the neighborhood bar after he’s had just a few drinks, however then he’ll return to avoiding me the subsequent day.
All issues thought-about, I’m nonetheless glad I went on the journey with Brad, it was a pleasant trip and it opened my eyes to how he’s. I don’t suppose this strained our work relationship, from what I can inform he now treats me like he treats everybody else on the staff (minus the drunk texts!).
Thanks once more for all of the suggestions from everybody within the remark part (and Alison in fact!)
